Interview with a Sadistic Domme

Today M. D. Miller tells us about the draw of a professional sadistic Domme and why she has continued in this lifestyle for two thirds of her life.

If you have any questions, feel free to ask her on her Twitter. You can also find her book, Pent Up, available in paperback and Kindle Unlimited.

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1. In your own words, what is your kink about? 

Kink...Hmm. Thanks for asking. There's a lot that makes up who I used to be and who I am now regarding "life".

I am a Domme'. Well, Domme', Mistress, Madam. How most refer to me. However, if you know or have ever met me then you know what I really am and how rare it is. I am what they call a true ALPHA. Not a Domme', submissive or a switch. I do however have a couple main kinks that stand out.

I'm a sadist. I have no problem putting you to pain, should that be your desire, or "kink". If it isn't, I do have the ability to yield to that part of me... for a time. I'm also into bondage. I do that well.

2. What are the different spokes in this kink’s umbrella that you know of? 

Dominant, submissant, sadism, masochist. In life I've learned you're generally one of two things. A Dominant, or a submissive. Then there is the grey area. Princesses, Switches, Brats, (my plaything of choice), Drama Queens. Titles really. They describe what you are to your owner, or what your owner chooses to refer to you as, in my opinion. 

3. What spoke(s) in particular interest you? 

Umm... Umm... I choose Domme' for 500 Bob. I'm what is referred to as a bottom from the top. I will give you pretty much whatever, whenever. But only if you ask nicely. Tell me to do it. Watch what happens. ;)

A bottom from the top is someone who plays to other people's preferences to get the outcome they desire. 

4. As far as you know, is there an active online community for your kink? If so, are there any sites you can tell us about? 

Pretty much anyone of the Fetish sites. BDSM, kinksters I'd imagine. I rarely play online with the life. I'm an "arms length away" kind of Domme'. You can't inflict actual pain online. Make them "come" when you call. Instill fear by voice alone. 

Probably one of my more favorite constants is when they tell me, "When you say my name alone, my stomach twists into knots. I'm terrified I've done something that didn't please Mistress." This came from every brat. And yes. It brought this Mistress joy.

5. If you had to guess, about how long have you been interested in this?

Close to 30 years now. So at least two thirds of my life.

6. How did you initially learn about it? 

It wasn't a learning thing for me. More of a realization.

I realized in my early teens that I had the ability to talk pretty much everyone into anything I wanted. I figured it was because of my upbringing. I was taught to be polite, well mannered. Treat others like you would want them to treat you. It didn't hurt that I looked like a little kid well into my thirties. 

I was 16 when I divvied out my first task. This guy that was trying to gain my attention said, "Whatever you want. Just say the words. I'll do it." Being facetious at that time in my life I retorted with, "Do you have sandpaper at your house?" After he nodded I told him. 

"Go get it, cut it down to fit in the soul of your shoe. Wear the shoes to work. With no socks."

I went to his place of employment to see if he had done this insane thing I ordered. 

The bottoms of his feet were riddled with welts for blisters. In shock, and a little turned on by the power I seemed to have, it began. This life we enjoy so much. ;)

7. What kept you interested? 

I haven't mentioned I'm an exhibitionist have I? The excitement of it. The thought of how far can I take them? What will be too much, or too far? For the record. I had the last try to remove his own toenail with needle nose pliers because he didn't have his toenail trimmed as ordered. Just sayin'... I wonder when I'll meet one that I push too far. Hasn't happened yet. :D

8. Was there ever a time you thought you took a wrong turn down the rabbit hole? If yes, what happened? 

Not as of yet I guess. 

9. Was there ever a time that you thought it might not be for you after all? If yes, what happened? 

No, and a resounding yes. No because, I will always be this. Yes because there will come a time that I'm just too old and too tired to live this life actively anymore.

10. Do you think there are any specific reasons you’re interested in this kink? If so, what are they? 

I'd have to say the taboo nature of it all. The fact that society says this shouldn't be done. 

11. If you could clear up any stigmas or stereotypes about this kink, what would they be? 

I like this question. Did you know that in the Bible they condone masters and subservience. They talk about it in 1 Peter 2:18-25; Ephesians 6:5-9; and Exodus 21:1-6. (That I know of off hand) The fact that some are able to treat it with candidness. Even finding delight in it is "unheard of" in certain social circles. In Ecclesiastes 3:1 it says, “To everything there is a season. A time for every purpose under heaven.”

Sometimes, people need a keeper, they need direction, or they might  need correction. Sometimes maybe they even  need to be humbled... Along with others that this life is able to help them with.

12. Is there anything else you would like the world at large to know about your kink? 

I am very calculated. There is a reason behind everything I do. The reason I love this aspect of my life is because it's with the intention of making them into something better than they ever could have imagined for themselves. For me it's psychological.

Maybe that's why my weapon of choice in this life is mental warfare.